Mysoaces Dating

The cell phone has become today’s version of the little black book. You meet someone at a party, a bar, or online and you enter their number. With the press of a few buttons, you are connected with someone. The numbers tend to accumulate, but when you take offense to someone, the connection can be deleted, digitally terminated. It’s a sometimes symbolic gesture. When the number is gone the person is gone.

Terminating Relationships

“It’s like being terminated,” says a 27 year old player, “If you are upset, you have to delete them.” Perhaps this contributes to the culture of player’s throwaway relationships. As long as the number is there, the relationship is kept alive.

Dangerous Secrets

But along with the cell phones portable secrets, it’s sanitized and screened communication, it’s ability to hold many relationships…there comes a danger to relationships. Feelings of jealousy are common when watching someone go through recent call lists. The lists of numbers can represent a lack of commitment. Snooping through a partners cell phone becomes tempting and breaks down trust. Break-ups happen over a strange name. Some people become so connected to their phones that they are lost without them. They don’t know who their friends are without a cell phone. The phone gives them a sense of history. This makes the deletions of numbers more difficult.

Advice?

Well, honestly if you are fooling around within a committed relationship, you deserve what you get. Sooner or later you will leave the phone unattended or she/he will simply grab it from you. If you are serious, clean up your phone. You can backup “rarely used numbers” securely elsewhere if you must. You may be surprised who will go through your numbers to see who answers. Later you may find your relationship on the ropes for “no reason.”

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